Life is unpredictable; it holds surprises at every step of our lives, some pleasant, some very distressing, some devastating, some sad and some very ecstatic ones. The ones which make us jubilant and elated are always welcome, but the ones which shatter us are surprises we never want to encounter. Well that’s just wishful thinking; it’s a part of life.
Well what can be more shattering and heartbreaking than knowing that your loved one is going to leave you in a matter of few months? Death is inevitable, that’s the only bitter truth of life but then actually seeing it right in front of you, sends chills through your spine.
It is a colossal task to inter your emotions and fake a smile on your countenance in front of a person who is critical and is holding on to the last straw of his life.
Casing up the fact that there is no cure for the disease requires a person with a strong will power and a massive empathetic nature. It is not an easy task to stay calm and see the person slip by one day at a time.
There are elderly people who are diagnosed with acute leukemia in the final stages and the doctor knows that chemotherapy will be futile as it will only escalate the pain and suffering of the patient and will not make even an iota of difference. The pain will be excruciating and unimaginable.
Well then how to react in this kind of a situation? The best way is to spend ample of quality time, reminiscing all the golden moments of life. Bring in positive vibes by talking about positive things in life and avoiding daily soaps which only add on to the stress level.
If the person is able to move about without any adverse issues like panting or getting out of breath, take the person out for a nature walk and spend time in the open, savoring the cool fresh breeze. Never be too busy with your life that you get so engrossed in yourself which makes things slip out of your mind. Let the person enjoy at leisure, never be in a hurry to wind up the outing.
Keep your gadgets aside, it will only reflect that you care and respect your loved one’s needs and give wholehearted attention.
Play some soft soothing music, preferably something your dear one likes, something that he or she enjoys. Music is the best therapy and the best stress buster.
Blood transfusion too is a very agonizing treatment, but that is something that cannot be avoided when the hemoglobin and platelet counts are low. When taking the person for a blood transfusion, the patient has to be convinced that there is nothing serious in his or her health but that the transfusion is vital to bring up the hemoglobin and platelet count or else the person will become weak. Put up a cheerful face in front of the person at all times, even when you know that time is ticking away.
Never make things conspicuous or else the person will start deteriorating rapidly. Keep away facts of the illness and never disclose it at any point what so ever.
Even when death is near don’t lose heart, you have seen how your loved one has borne the agony. You should prepare yourself to let go. You know you can’t hold on to something which is beyond your power. Prepare for the worst but put on a brave front with the utmost pleasantries with no sign of drained out emotions. Hold back your tears, you will let go them eventually when your loved one has crossed the bright light and laid to eternal rest.
Most significantly while carrying out your magnanimous deed never overdo anything which may make things very obvious and the person gets the feeling that something is gravely wrong. It sets fear in the mind of the patient.
Remember, life is short, live with no regrets and give all you can to your loved ones, all that you can, in all the possible ways you can and as long as you can. A rose given during a life time, is better than orchids placed on the grave.